Last summer, my god-daughter and her husband-to-be asked me to read the Psalm, “If I do not have love, I gain nothing” at their wedding ceremony (1.Corinthians 12:31-13:8a). This is oft recited as couples celebrate a union of marital love: “…Love is patient, love is kind.
it is not inflated, it is not rude,
it does not seek its own interests,
it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood
over injury, it does not rejoice over
wrong doing but rejoices with the truth.
It bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things…
This poem encourages partners to reach toward compassion. Love doesn’t maintain itself; it is developed through the intention to communicate…love is deepened through compassionate efforts with a desired, like-minded partner. At the beginning of the bond, love is often intense… Sustaining these special feelings is the challenge, and I believe the foundation to sustainability rests in the love we have for ourselves. This intention requires that we look within and know who we are. Truly loving ourselves is the foundation for attracting a partner who has a similar love of self. Remember that we are radiating who we are at all times because we are broadcast journalists! Once we attract a partner with a parallel vibe, we are in a solid position to discover further understanding within ourselves and in our relationship. This propels us into an exciting adventure which creates intimacy on all levels, allowing the relationship to be genuine, and fresh — lasting in the long term. We embark on a journey which Celine Dion refers to in the “Power of Love:” “We’re heading for something. Somewhere I’ve never been, Sometimes I am frightened. But I’m ready to learn of the power of love.” (Epic, 1993).
Bryan Adams sings:
“I’m finding it hard to believe we’re in heaven. Love is all that I need, and I found it there in your arms, it isn’t too hard to see we’re in heaven.” (co-written by B. Adams, J. Vallance, A&M, 1985)
Let’s take a leap from the apparent fantasy of these three poems, to the reality of achieving a relationship that takes our breath away. (This is an example of using dreams to infuse our reality) Here are my suggested ingredients: a cup of love with our appropriate vibrational partner + a cup of a loving.compassionate and communicative friendship + flavoring (to your taste) of sexual attraction + a cup of relentless pursuit of self truth. Add trust as needed. Let the mixture rest (coddle as you would a soufflé); and bake in a warm oven. The concoction is ready…Voila! We have heaven in his/her arms.
As spoken by our most impressive poets – Paul in his letter to the Corinthians; Adams; and Dion…the alchemy of love emerges…and I can now say that the power of love is all that I need…
For the frosting I defer to the Beatles (Lennon-McCartney, 1967, Parlophone): “All you need is love, All you need is love, All you need is love, love, Love is all you need…